7 Reasons to Stop Avoiding Conversations in English

"Oh no, he wants to have a video meeting. Maybe I can cancel. I don’t really like speaking in English…"

Does this sound like you? If yes, then this article is for you!

I understand how you feel because I was the same. Speaking in a new language can feel scary. Maybe you feel shy, or you don’t know what to say. But avoiding conversations will not help you improve.

Here are 7 reasons why you should stop avoiding English conversations and start speaking with confidence:

1. You Have Something Important to Say 🎤

Your ideas, opinions, and experiences are valuable. Maybe you feel shy, but inside, you have a lot to share. People want to hear your thoughts!

👉 What to do: Start small. Share a short idea in a conversation. Ask a question. Every time you speak, it gets easier.

2. Speaking More = Learning Faster 🚀

It takes 1,000 hours of speaking to reach basic fluency and 10,000 hours to become really advanced. If you don’t practice speaking, you slow down your learning.

Imagine learning to swim by only reading about it. You have to get in the water to really learn. It’s the same with English!

👉 What to do: Try speaking for 10 minutes a day. Talk to yourself, join a language group, or call a friend.

3. If You Stay Silent, People May Not Know the Real You 📖

When you don’t speak, people may guess things about you that are not true. They might think you are not interested, not friendly, or even not confident.

But that’s not you! You are smart, interesting, and full of ideas.

👉 What to do: Speak up, even if it’s just a little. Let people see who you really are!

4. Confidence Comes From Speaking, Not from Waiting 🌱

Many learners wait until they feel 100% ready to speak. But confidence does not come before speaking—it comes because you speak!

Every mistake helps you learn. Every word you say makes you better.

👉 What to do: Don’t wait for perfect grammar. Just focus on communication. It will get easier with practice.

5. Speaking English Gives You More Opportunities 🌍

Do you want a better job? More friends? A chance to travel or live in another country? Speaking English can help you get these things!

If you avoid conversations, you may miss amazing opportunities.

👉 What to do: Say “yes” to new experiences—networking, job interviews, or simple conversations with strangers.

6. Your English is Better Than You Think 💡

Many learners think their English is not good enough. But people understand you more than you realize!

Your accent? No problem.Your mistakes? Normal.What matters most? Trying!

👉 What to do: Focus on what you CAN do in English. You are already improving every day!

7. One Good Conversation Can Change Everything 🔑

Sometimes, one positive conversation can change your confidence forever. A meeting where you express yourself well, a chat with a new friend—one small moment can make a big difference!

👉 What to do: The next time you feel like avoiding a conversation, say YES instead. You never know what will happen!

Final Thought: The Only Way to Improve is to Try

If you avoid speaking because it feels difficult, that’s exactly why you need to do it.

Next time you think, “Maybe I’ll cancel that meeting…” remind yourself: Every conversation is practice. Every time you speak, you get better.

🚀 You can do this! 🚀

🙋‍♀️ I’m here to help! I’m Nikki Andrade—an English coach, expat, creative writer, and artist. I’ve helped thousands of learners reach fluency with my authentic and practical approach. English is not just about grammar—it’s about real conversations, real connections, and real confidence.

💬 Let’s work together to make English feel natural and fun! Book a free call with me! 🚀